Comments on: Can’t a single working woman live in a city different from the one she belongs to?

By: Sandy

Sandy — Mon, 26 Apr 2010 08:50:47 +0000

“Don’t ambitious women exist?” – Yes they do,and to be frank they better not get married.
“Problem is that men STILL expect women who are as smart; as qualified as them to not follow their dreams but go after their husband’s dreams instead”
- What’s wrong in that ? The women who help in their husband’s dreams are always good wives and make a good family. No need to look down upon them.

Don’t try to force something into the society which can do mroe harm than good.Accept things as they are.

By: RGC

RGC — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 16:39:18 +0000

yup. Have faced the same discrimination. But rarely attend social gatherings where such questions and pity looks are bound to creep up. And no point in arguing. I think the fact that there are many women who will not move for their husband’s careers is good cheer for us.
There is a new prejudice to deal with. Men who move for their wife’s careers are considered to be earning less than the wife!
Lets see how that prejudice can be broken.

By: Kapil Dalal

Kapil Dalal — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 14:24:34 +0000

A single working woman can definitely live in a city different from the one she belongs to. And full respect to her for doing that. But I didn’t really understand what the issue is? That people are assuming that you can’t be single and working in a different city? Don’t you think the most probable thing gets assumed? How many Indian women would be in Shanghai and how many of them would be single? I guess it would be a low percentage. A low percentage for the gathering you went to, anyways. It’d have been a bad thing if other people were making judgments on your character based on your status. But they just seemed to curious (apart from expressing surprise through their tone). Well, it’d have been nice had they kept the possibility in mind that you MAY be single, unlike most of them. But we would have to add a lot of possibilities then- like you may not know Hindi, etc. etc. Social conversations usually don’t work that ways.

It may have made more sense for you to stay on, and educate them about the work you do. A good chance that they would have been interested, and wiser the next time round. You can of course choose to stick to “broad-minded” people and classify those making more popular assumptions as “narrow-minded”. But what’s the point?

By: Innocent_Guy

Innocent_Guy — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 18:29:21 +0000

“(I know we are smarter…)” is a dumb statement for someone who claims to be smart. Considering that all through your post you kept saying that just because a majority of women do something doesn’t mean everyone else does, that was a really generalized (and dumb) statement that crept into your o/w nice post.
It’s nice that there are women who follow their dreams as well and not fall into being a stereotype. But then it’s up to those women to put an end to that stereotype. Many women don’t realize that they can follow their dreams too if they wanted. They need to be made aware of alternative life paths. And it’s not always the men that can do that. If women like you can talk to these other women, they will get the confidence to do something they’ve always wanted to. They’ll have someone to look up to and emulate. What do you think?